Has anyone listened to Dr. Laura on the radio? Holy crap, people are so stupid......I mean Dr. Laura's pretty harsh, absolutely ZERO pampering...but some of the people that call in are so dumb....
Example: Man calls wanting to know how he can get his wife to beleive that there's nothing going on between him and his ex-girlfriend when he's hidden various christmas cards and meetings from her. Dr. Laura says the only thing that will prove that to your wife is separation from your ex. He insists that there has to be other ways and Dr. laura says if you care so much about your ex, maybe you should be with her.... Anyway, eventually it's revealed to Dr. Laura that this guy has a history of trying to strangle his wife and yadda yadda at that point I just turned it off and went... GAH.....People suck, I hate relationships..... TIME FOR A RANT.
Do I need to be torn or troubled in some way, like be verbally abusive or have a problem with anger or become irrationally insensitive when I'm hurt or something?
BECAUSE (here comes the classic complaint of "good guys" like me) it just seems like girls try to find these "Good" qualities in guys who have disproportionately bad qualities, like girls can't just take a nice guy. NO, they have to weed out the good stuff from absolutely terrible men. And not even balanced good and bad, just purely horrendous guys that have these sparkles of light that girls just eat up, while being emotionally demolished in the process. And it seems like they then look at themselves and say, "Look at what I'm suffering through for love!"
YOU DON'T NEED THAT, NO ONE DOES.
And yet, all they affirm in actions is: YES I DO! I DO NEED TO BE ABUSED!!
Then the guy who's like, "I'll never abuse you" gets to watch the love of his life get permenantly damaged and deranged by some psychotic asshole just because he opted to be understanding in a conflict rather than lash out and smack her or call her a worthless whore or what have you. You know, he'll say something colourful enough to make the girl mad at him but then come back to him wondering, "why does he think that way about me?" and thus staying in a relationship where most people would say "Don't put up with that shit, get the hell out now!"
And do you know what KILLS ME?!?!??!
Is that abused girls tend to look for abuse because it's simply what they're used to, that's how they are used to being treated: "if I'm not being abused, there must be something wrong with this relationship." Or they get involved with guys who are abusive from the start and figure that, "maybe this time it'll be different."
Oh... MY SOUL!!!!
it breaks every empathetic bone in my body and crushes the pieces of my heart....
Ugh.... now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go cry myself to sleep. And then tommorow morning, I'll work on my ability to make people feel worthless so that maybe then I'll find someone that I can love.
Example: Man calls wanting to know how he can get his wife to beleive that there's nothing going on between him and his ex-girlfriend when he's hidden various christmas cards and meetings from her. Dr. Laura says the only thing that will prove that to your wife is separation from your ex. He insists that there has to be other ways and Dr. laura says if you care so much about your ex, maybe you should be with her.... Anyway, eventually it's revealed to Dr. Laura that this guy has a history of trying to strangle his wife and yadda yadda at that point I just turned it off and went... GAH.....People suck, I hate relationships..... TIME FOR A RANT.
Do I need to be torn or troubled in some way, like be verbally abusive or have a problem with anger or become irrationally insensitive when I'm hurt or something?
BECAUSE (here comes the classic complaint of "good guys" like me) it just seems like girls try to find these "Good" qualities in guys who have disproportionately bad qualities, like girls can't just take a nice guy. NO, they have to weed out the good stuff from absolutely terrible men. And not even balanced good and bad, just purely horrendous guys that have these sparkles of light that girls just eat up, while being emotionally demolished in the process. And it seems like they then look at themselves and say, "Look at what I'm suffering through for love!"
YOU DON'T NEED THAT, NO ONE DOES.
And yet, all they affirm in actions is: YES I DO! I DO NEED TO BE ABUSED!!
Then the guy who's like, "I'll never abuse you" gets to watch the love of his life get permenantly damaged and deranged by some psychotic asshole just because he opted to be understanding in a conflict rather than lash out and smack her or call her a worthless whore or what have you. You know, he'll say something colourful enough to make the girl mad at him but then come back to him wondering, "why does he think that way about me?" and thus staying in a relationship where most people would say "Don't put up with that shit, get the hell out now!"
And do you know what KILLS ME?!?!??!
Is that abused girls tend to look for abuse because it's simply what they're used to, that's how they are used to being treated: "if I'm not being abused, there must be something wrong with this relationship." Or they get involved with guys who are abusive from the start and figure that, "maybe this time it'll be different."
Oh... MY SOUL!!!!
it breaks every empathetic bone in my body and crushes the pieces of my heart....
Ugh.... now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go cry myself to sleep. And then tommorow morning, I'll work on my ability to make people feel worthless so that maybe then I'll find someone that I can love.
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